Conflicts within Couples

Posted by on Mar 18, 2014 in Numerology News | 0 comments

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Conflicts within Couples,

Couples come together because of love and separate because of hate!?

All areas of life are built around two things; Choices and Decisions – this is what shapes our lives.

Many couples come to me because of fights, and some are very ugly. If you happen to be one of these, the I invite you to contemplate the following questions:

  • Do you love each other?
  • Do you want to make – built – a life together?
  • Do you think it is worth it?

If you answered yes to all of these questions, then move on to the next step.

  • Acknowledge that there’s a tendency for arguments and fights in your couple.
  • Identify the source – what triggers them.
  • Identify what fuels them – what blows them out of proportion.

The key to a good relationship is communication and negotiation, none of these include force, yelling, screaming, when we use FORCE, YELLING, SCREAMING, it is our EGO wanting to be right, have the last word – to win! The questions here is; what do you really win?

Forcing my point on somebody simply means I have a long way to go in terms of philosophy, diplomacy, acceptance, tolerance – learn how to live-and-let-live. I’m allowed to have my point of view, I may want to share it or simply show it, but I don’t have to force it on anybody, why would I? For all I know, I could be wrong. Honestly, in this world of constant change and illusion, who’s right?

The ultimate TRUTH is fragmented… I and you own a particle of it!

I personally don’t want anybody like me in my life as a couple, I have enough of me! I want someone different, so that I can grow and evolve.

  • Emotional and yelling communication will never be the key to happiness, growth or wealth.
  • Forceful and/or violent communication will never be the key to happiness, growth or wealth.

Identify what triggers your disagreements and buy yourselves a bracelet to remind you of the road you now choose not to travel. In addition, write down along with a cartoon figure something to remind you to follow and commit, then, glue it to your fridge door.

The best cartoon you can think of is Pepe-Le-Pew. He’s famous last words were:

“War is fine, but Love is so much better!!!”

Your spirit has no reason to fight and your body will never fight on its own… who’s fighting? Yes, you got it… the EGO!

Set limits to where your conversations should end! As soon as you feel that a harmful conflict is arising, go out for a walk. All discussions and disagreements should stay within ‘1 minute’, never longer. If you do, then you’ll be addressing a specific point and not embracing the desire to win or move into what I call, personality assassination… the only winner I’ve ever seen in a couple’s fight… was the lawyer!

PLEASE CONTEMPLATE DOING THIS EXERCICE FOR A WEEK, DON’T SHOW IT WHILE YOU’RE DOING IT, THEN, GO OUT TO A RESTAURANT AND CHANGE THE SHEETS. YOU WILL DISCOVER A TREASURE.

WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO HAVE FROM MY PARTNER.

(Write down the things you would like to have from your partner that, according to you, would bring you closer together. It is important that you use a positive and optimistic attitude).

“Open yourself and let your heart speak…”

 

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